It’s Ok to Not Have It All Figured Out

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by Vianey Perez

People run around trying to figure life out as if it were a problem given to them. People try to decide early in life what they want to do, who they want to be, and where they want to go.

Why try to scramble figuring out life? What good will that do you? Rushing to figure out life is only going to stress and tire you out. Trust me on it: It’s okay to not have it all figured out.

In an article for The Odyssey Online, writer Rachel Seiden says she doesn’t have her life figured out, that she doesn’t know about the future. Life is about finding out discovering yourself. It’s about discovering what you live for, and setting goals for yourself. Figuring part of life out is “becoming someone who you’re proud of.”

Before rushing to graduate, or get married, or get a promotion, figure out who you are. You can’t succeed unless you know what type of person you are. Knowing who you are helps you “be aware of your core values, priorities, and dreams,” as one writer put it in the blog Habits for Well-Being.

You can do bullet journals to start.

No matter what point you are at in your journey, you don’t have to rush to the end,” writes a student in Eastern Michigan University for a college fashion site. Everything comes in its own time and to its own place. The writer adds that people like to change, challenge, and grow.

So even when you figure one part of your life out there is still more that needs to be figured out. We won’t always have our life together. Meaning you can take the scenic route through your life. Look at the different things you could do, different paths you could take. Who knows? They could take you where you want to be or even further than where you imagined being.

Still believe that it’s not okay to not have it together? In another article titled “Why It’s Okay to Not Have Life Figured Out” on a blog called “Lizze in Lice,” the writer lists four reasons why it’s okay.

  1. “Things aren’t always picture perfect.”

We come up with the illusion that the more things we have, the happier we are. Yet this isn’t always the case. Let’s say in the future, you get married and have kids, but what next? What if your kids don’t grow up to be like you want, or what if you get a divorce?  

Or, what if you go to college and you pick a major that your parents want and you think it’ll make you happy too, but you find out that that isn’t what you want? If things go out of course to our ultimate goal we tend to worry.

The reality is that you’ll always want more. We will always change our goals. Sure you can have a nice home but you’ll soon want to work toward a mansion.

I’ve learned that forcing things to happen never works out and that you just have to learn to trust the process and be accepting of the change that comes your way,” writes the blogger.

2. “Outfit details.”

Not everything we want to come to reality will occur. Just because it doesn’t, that does not mean we’re lost or should feel like a failure.

3. “Life looks different for everyone.”

Everyone has a different view of what life should look like. If someone owns a car you’ll be envious of that because it may look like they have their life together but it could turn out that maybe they have a bunch of bills to catch up on.

4. “Everyone feels the same way.”

Everyone feels like they don’t have stuff together.

For now, enjoy the ride that life has for you.

 

Notes:

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/why-okay-not-have-life-figured-out : Author claims that it is okay because you’re still trying to figure yourself out. >> We may not have life planned out but life has planned itself out for us to journey through.

https://www.lizzieinlace.com/2018/11/okay-to-not-have-life-figured-out.html : Author makes really good highlights

  • “Things aren’t always picture perfect” >> We come up with the illusion that the more things we have, the happier we are. Yet this isn’t always the case. Lets say in the future, you get married and have kids, but what next? What if your kids don’t grow up to be like you want, or what if you get a divorce?  Or what if you go to college and you pick a major that your parents want and you think it’ll make you happy too, but you find out that that isn’t what you want.
  • “Outfit details” >> not everything we want to come to reality will occur. Just because it doesn’t, that does not mean we’re lost or should feel like a failure.
  • “Life looks different for everyone” >> everyone has a different view of what life should look like.
  • “Everyone else feels the same way” >> everyone feels like they don’t have (excuse my language) shit together.

https://www.collegefashion.net/college-life/having-your-life-together/ : Author says that we shouldn’t rush. >> everything has its own time and place, and even when it doesn’t, it’s okay to take a detour and browse around a bit.

 

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